Winding down on Easter evening after visiting my mother. My kids were there, as was my brother, SIL, and my BF went this time. It was all in all a nice time but many questions have arisen in my mind that I have to deal with very soon. I'm extremely concerned about some legal issues that have plagued me for quite some time. I've mentioned it off and on in my regular journal but not in depth. I brought my concerns to my mother's attention after my brother left and am now more concerned than ever. Yet still I hate to bring my dirty laundry out in the air...well not dirty laundry but some back handed things that will affect my children (I'm not concerned about myself as my mother as given more to me in the past few years than I could ever repay) and my mother, herself. How I approach this is not going to be pretty or easy and will probably rock someone's boat. My mother was to deed her house to my brother and I two years ago. My brother talked her into deeding it to him solely two days before we were change the title. I let it slide. I was a bit ignorant/naive. Legally, my mother does not own the home that she and my father built 59 years ago; our family home...my brother owns it. My brother has a wife. There has never ever been any love lost between my mother and SIL to say the least. Should something happen to my brother tomorrow, my SIL would own our family home. My mom said she would add an addendum to her will. I could tell by my BF's expression that all was not well. She can't give me 50% of something she doesn't own. I don't want the house. My brother can live in it until the day he dies. I just do not want to see my children cheated out of a home that should go to them; not my SIL or her family. I see ugliness brewing. My father must be rolling in his grave.
So, it was a good Easter day but things have to be done. But only my brother can add me to the deed. My BF said to give it a day or two and then discuss this all with my mother. I hate to throw this all upon her but she has to realize that there is no guarantee that my brother or I will live longer than she does. I get physically ill when I think of what would happen if something happened to my brother tomorrow. My mother would be at the disposal of my brother's wife...ugh. These are things that drive families apart. My mother has far too much trust in my brother. I'm praying for the right words once again. This is something I will not let up on. Anyway, not the entry I planned for this day...I have a few snags I've been plodding along at...Hugs to all...Chris